The Lost Art of the Sunday Dinner ~ Food & Friends

Some time ago, I realized that the art of friendship is not an easy one.  I think all of us have thought, at one time or another, why do I have to reach out, why don’t they?  The truth is that if you want friends you have to do the work.

We are a small family and have no family where we live, and this has been the case for some time in various locales.  So building family, building community, matters to us.

I have a few passions and cooking is one of them.  I am a passable home cook.  Not one of those people that can just whip up a cake from memory, but I can produce a pretty nice dinner.  And my husband’s new smoker inspired us to the summer barbecue.

All of this has motivated us to revive our practice of the Sunday dinner with friends.  We love to cook, we love to entertain and we love being with those we consider friends.  So, this will be a diary of our dinners.  I hope you find some humor and maybe a good food idea or two.

Things Ruben Wants You To Know #1~ What My Father Taught Me

First, I shall tell you about some of the things my father taught me. Then I’ll proceed to my recommendations for you, Jacob.

My father taught me kindness and compassion, appreciation of my fellow human beings, the joys of service to others, patience, tolerance and understanding of people, even if their outlook on life, politics,
religion, nationality, race, or sexual orientation was different from mine. In addition, he impressed upon me that it is utterly self-destructive to carry a grudge. Also, I learned from him that though it is all right to dislike a person or thing, I should never hate.

I further learned, both by his teaching and by his example, consideration and charity, as well as honesty, sincerity, optimism, fairness, tidiness and many other positive things, all of which made me into an extrovert and, hopefully, a decent human being. In other words, he shaped my personality and my interpersonal relationships – plus my philosophy of life. To this day I still live by that, and I enjoy life and the many friends I have.

This is what I would like you to know: You may disagree with your friend – about politics, religion, or whatever – but you should respect him/her for his/her belief, and remain on friendly terms with your friend. You should never carry a grudge – once something is over, it’s over. Carrying a grudge or “hating” is totally

Life is full of challenges; never despair, but meet those challenges head-on – remember that your glass is always half-full, not half-empty, Today’s young people are besieged by electronic instant
communication to the extent that some of them actually lose their humanity. I sincerely hope that you will not be one of these, but will use those marvelous tools wisely and with circumspection.